DIVORCE STRESS PLAN
As the founder and another unfortunate statistic of divorce,  I can attest to the stress that your body goes through while you and your children battle through a bitter divorce.  The confusion and uncertainty of it all at some points may make you feel like quitting, and that's not an option.  Club Recharge has built a divorce stress reduction plan with therapy recommendations that may help you navigate this confusing and stressful part of your life. 

 

My father's advice to me growing up was to always "do what you know" for the simple reason that you will understand what your customer is going through and will be able to offer more effective solutions.   Science has conclusively shown that stress on the body has a very negative effect, including many diseases related to stress and every divorce guide offers ways for you to try to de-stress.   Because of my unique situation of going through a hotly contested divorce and my understanding of how these affect the body,  Club Recharge is in a unique position to help people in similar situations cope with the stress they are facing our about to face.

"Stop trying to calm the storm,

calm yourself, the storm will pass."

divorce STRESS REDUCTION

You are going to meet 1,000 people that have went through something similar, but not exactly like what your going through, so close your mouth and listen, you may find something useful from each person you talk with when you hear their story, this includes your attorney.  If they have been practicing divorce law for any amount of time they have already seen it all and have a pretty good idea of what's coming.  I will attempt to break down the items to pay the closest attention to as you navigate the process.

 

TIP #1: DON'T BE ANGRY

This is my number tip, because controlling this emotion is a game changer.  Like most people I wasted time in my life being angry and it accomplished absolutely nothing. Being angry makes you a bad friend, a terrible parent and generally someone that nobody wants to be around.  Fortunately for me I received some good advice early on through my divorce process that helped me exit this phase quickly.   Anger is an emotion that more than effects your body, it effects your mind and the decisions you make.  I promise you, if you don't control your anger, you will have even more problems to work on from all of the bad decisions you made while you were angry.  It's OK to still get frustrated from the lengthy process that at some points don't seem to have rules, just keep it in check.

TIPS TO DEAL WITH ANGER:

Go to the gym

Go for a run

Seek professional help

Recommended Therapy

Electrical Muscle Stimulation

Pressotherapy

Hot Boxing

Infrared Sauna

PEMF Therapy

Vibration Therapy

 

TIP #2: WATCH OUT FOR THE KIDS

During most bitter divorces the children are caught in the crossfire between the parents, and although your bullet holes may heal quickly, theirs may take a lot longer or never heal, so keep them out of it as best as possible.  Protect them with your life and do your best to keep their lives as normal as you can, both emotionally and financially, after all it wasn't their decision but they also have to live through it with you.

TIPS TO DEAL WITH kids:

Go for a bike ride together

Go for a walk together

Seek professional help together

Recommended Therapy

Hot Yoga Together

Hot Meditation Together

Hot Boxing Together

Oxygen Bath Together

Vibration Therapy Together

 

TIP #3: decompress everyday

The 24/7 stress that comes with the uncertainty of divorce is for the most part unavoidable, but regardless has to be effectively dealt with on a daily basis.  Many people will to tell you their happy ending story, but when you are in the middle of chaos and are trying to figure out how your children;s tuition is going to get paid next month, those happy ending stories do little to calm the nerves.  You need to find something or someone that you know brings you peace and calm.  If you have a routine in the beginning, you will weather the storm much more effectively rather than waiting until the storm has arrived.  Alcohol, may be a quick fix but does little to calm the body for the long term, so do your best to avoid your stress with alcohol and manage it with a stress reduction plan.

TIPS TO DEAL WITH STRESS:

Re-balance Work and Home.

Build in Regular Exercise.

Eat Well and Limit Alcohol and Stimulants.

Connect with Supportive People.

Carve out Hobby Time.

Practice Meditation, Stress Reduction or Yoga.

Sleep Enough.

Bond with Your Pet.

Recommended Therapy

Cocoon Sauna

Float Therapy

FitBody Wrap

Pressotherapy

Vibration Therapy

TIP #4: LET GO

This item should be as high on your list of priorities as you can get it, but really can only be achieved after you have mastered the first few items.  When we say let go, we mean stop trying to be the person you were and realize the facts on the ground have changed and everyone will have to deal with it.   If you were a person like me that used to take great pride in how our yard looked, or how clean we kept our house, realize that it used be a two person job and now their is only one of you to do it.   Let go, of how things used to be or how they used to look and realize that you will get to it when you have the time.  People add stress to their lives by trying to live the same way they did before the divorce as they do after the divorce at the expense of their health.  Nobody that cares about you cares about the weeds in the yard, or the coffee cups on the counter so why are you concerned.

TIPS TO HELP YOU LET GO:

Skip the grass cutting

Skip the laundry

Skip the dishes

and see what happens

Recommended Therapy

Cocoon Sauna

Float Therapy

FitBody Wrap

Pressotherapy

Vibration Therapy

Oxygen Bath

PEMF Therapy

TIP #5: Don't TRY TO KEEP UP

Even if your spouse starts going on dates two weeks after the divorce begins, don't try to keep up.   This is a rookie mistake, that most people fall victim to.  I need to remind you that falling in love is not a race and you will waste your time and other people time dating before you are ready.   The process of falling back in love with someone new does not have a clock or for that matter a calendar and only happens when all of the stars align, so forcing the situation by joining every dating app shows more about how desperate you are and less about how happy you are.   My best advise to you at this point in your life is to find your new happy and brace all the legs of your stool before you try to sit on it.  Make sure your finances are reassembled, your career is going in the direction you want, and if you have kids, that their lives are stable. 

TIPS TO HELP YOU NOT KEEP UP:

Get a dog or cat

Watch all the shows your ex-spouse never wanted to

Arrange the house your way

Make new friends

Recommended Therapy

Cocoon Sauna

Float Therapy

FitBody Wrap

Pressotherapy

Vibration Therapy

Red Light Therapy

Oxygen Bath

TIP #6: NO STALKING

I never stalked my ex-spouse and in fact I took it one step further and blocked her from every form of communication including social media, texting and email, which I will admit got me in trouble from time to time with the court, but it was still the best thing I ever did hands down.  If you tried everything to save your marriage as I did, and left the door open for them to come home and they didn't, then giving yourself a constant reminder of your past can add a lot of stress to your life.  The more you can put it in the past the quicker you will heal from the hurt.  I only mention this item in my guide because I have watched to many friends torture themselves repeatedly, by checking up on their ex and tormenting themselves.   They do not want to be apart of your life any longer so why do you need to know what they are up to.

TIPS TO HELP YOU NOT STALK:

Go out to eat

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Recommended Therapy

Cocoon Sauna

Float Therapy

FitBody Wrap

Pressotherapy

Vibration Therapy

Red Light Therapy

Oxygen Bath

Infrared Sauna

TIP #7: SPEAK NO EVIL

Try your best on every occasion to not speak poorly about your ex-spouse, to your friends, family and especially your children.  My best advice on this topic is probably the "less is more" concept.  I will admit at times that the process is a bit like the wild, wild,  west and unlike normal court where you need proof when you make an allegation, in divorce court apparently you can make up any lie you want and call it a legal brief.  For this section I would refer you to your attorney, just be aware of it and when it happens and try your best to keep your comments above the belt at all times.

TIPS TO HELP YOU NOT to speak evil:

Just everything is fine

 

Recommended Therapy

Cocoon Sauna

Float Therapy

FitBody Wrap

Pressotherapy

Vibration Therapy

Red Light Therapy

Oxygen Bath

Infrared Sauna